Transition To Public School

In the next few years, I’d like to see you transition her to public school. Kudos to you for homeschooling during those early years, but she’s in seventh grade now and needs to have some experience in a real school,” she said, punctuating the word real with an …

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Inflammation In Your Diet

The standard American diet is a pro-inflammatory diet. I’m not referring only to diets high in fat—although the usual high trans-fat, fast-food, and processed-food diet consumed in the United States is, in fact, pro-inflammatory. I’m also referring to the low-fat, high-carbohydrate, high-vegetable-oil diet that has been pushed …

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Time Management

The goal is to start doing everything in larger increments of time and dedicating more and more big chunks to your most important activities. So, do you know what your most important activities are right now? You will if you are going vertical and are aligned up and down your …

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How To Say No

Most of us feel uncomfortable saying no when someone is trying to convince us of something. What if the other person gets angry? Or decides you’re a bad, selfish person? What if saying no leads to being rejected? Sometimes we’re so afraid of conflict that it just feels …

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The Grief Process

In all my many years as a grief counselor and educator, I have been privileged to companion thousands of grieving people. I consider this work both an honor and a calling. But despite my schooling and experience, I am not the expert. It is the grievers themselves who are the …

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Respect—Step-by-Step

Let me show you step-by-step how I would handle this on a good day with one of my children. Suppose my son has just commanded me to help him with his chore.I start by saying lightly, “Let’s try that again with respect.”If he crosses his arms, furrows …

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Dreaming of Knights in Shining Armour

In the very beginning, in early societies, male supremacy was based on physical superiority. Since then, other values, valid for both sexes, have gained in importance. But even though we left those early ways behind a long time ago, they are still anchored firmly at the back of our minds …

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